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You Host the Self-Inflicted Cuckoo

Hosting The Self-Inflicted Cuckoo likely means you are engaging in some form of toxic thinking and self-sabotaging behavior. Rather than hosting The Relationship Cuckoo with a person who continues to hurt you and take advantage of you –  it is your own behaviors and thinking patterns that are keeping you stuck. 


You’re likely dealing with a whole flock of Self-Inflicted Cuckoos – from perfectionism, addictions, analysis paralysis, work-a-holic tendencies, and comparisonitis. To seeking your worth and value from your accomplishments. Or, your passions have grown turned into obsessions that feel overwhelming and all-consuming. 


Your thought life primarily consists of endless rationalizing, reasoning, and ruminating. Perhaps you turn to coping mechanisms to help you cope with stress, insecurity, and anxiety such as: overeating, drinking, shopping, gossiping, online dating, and endless social media scrolling, to name a few.

Even though your life is full of activity, you feel empty.

Pleasing, perfecting, and performing have become your constant companions that steal your joy and rob your peace of mind. Your inner-most voice tells you something is missing, yet you can’t quite put your finger on it. You are unaware of how to take care of yourself, rest, and even have fun. You can begin to heal by recharging, recovering, and reprioritizing so you can live a more balanced, meaningful, and fulfilling life. 


Most of us are unaware that we are harming ourselves. You don’t realize, until now, the things that are holding you back or getting in your way isn’t what you thought it was – because it’s you! We have all been here. Understanding this cuckoo dynamic can help you not shame yourself for repeating these destructive behaviors over and over again. 


The good news is that it’s never too late to begin the process of letting go of old habits and patterns that are restricting you. Break the cycle of being your own worst enemy, banish overwhelm, and embrace your weaknesses because they are just as important as your strengths. Take the time to get in touch with your innermost heart’s desires and dreams that have yet to come to fruition because your cuckoo is thwarting the way.

A final note from Andrea:


So, what does it all mean for you? And how can you use the results to recongnize, guard against, and deal with The Cuckoo Syndrome you encounter in your dating, love, work, and home life? Learn how to protect your unique purpose, “eggs” from being susceptible to cuckoos. 


For the latest research combining science, scripture, and psychology – including Andrea’s personal journey, stories of her clients, and detailed instructions on how to cope with cuckoo dynamics within yourself, your lovers and spouses, your parents, and bosses – pre-order The Cuckoo Syndrome: The Secret to Breaking Free from Unhealthy Relationships, Toxic Thinking, and Self-sabotaging Behavior. Pre-order the book Andrea’s clients call, “a life-changing breakthrough on a universal challenge,” for yourself and the people you care about, today! 

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I'm Andrea Anderson Polk


Before we go any further, let me introduce myself... I’m a licensed counselor, author, and speaker-storyteller. I am devoted to helping you uncover hidden relational, psychological, and spiritual truths so you can experience healing in order to live a more authentic and meaningful life. 


I just published my first book: The Cuckoo Syndrome: The Secret to Breaking Free From Unhealthy Relationships, Toxic Thinking, and Self-Sabotaging Behavior which weaves together my story and clinical experience of close attention to my clients with science, scripture, and psychology into practical, easy to understand concepts. 


Today, I teach courageous women how to take their life back and live each day with peace and purpose.

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