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The Cuckoo Syndrome Therapy  

Specialty sessions designed to help women break free from unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behavior.

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These speciality sessions are for the countless people who are suffering from a hidden pain and heartache destructively affecting their self-worth, careers, ministry, and their most intimate relationships.

 

Have you wondered if something is missing and feels off, yet you can’t quite put your finger on it? Chances are you have a cuckoo in your life, your “nest.” Whether you are stuck in a continuous cycle of carrying the emotional weight of your relationships or feel empty and overwhelmed-- what you believe is holding you back or getting in your way is most likely not what you think it is.

An Invisible Enemy

Cuckoo birds are nature’s infamous deceivers, manipulators, and takers. They are imposters who mimic who you are and what you want. Unbeknownst to most, the human heart is hosting a “cuckoo”, an invisible enemy, that is creating unnecessary suffering by subtly draining our energy, consuming our time, and stealing our joy. I have witnessed thousands of people who display this pattern.

Who is it for?

Sessions are designed to help you deal with specific ways The Cuckoo Syndrome symptoms and patterns manifest in your life personally and professionally. 

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The Cuckoo Syndrome Therapy is Designed for Two Types of People:

​Type 1

 

  • You find yourself carrying the emotional weight of your relationship, giving more than you are able, saying yes when you really mean no, and receiving little to no reciprocation.

  • You continually feel hurt by this person, you chronically neglect yourself to please them and take care of them even though they are never satisfied and don’t give back to you in the same way.

  • You’ve adopted the role of fixer, rescuer, caretaker or always being available. The relationship is monopolizing your time, demands your attention, and drains your energy. 

  • You leave conversations with this person feeling confused, manipulated, deceived – even a bit crazy.

  • Your voice is rarely heard, your needs are left unmet, and you feel misunderstood. You often feel ashamed and frustrated with yourself for not standing your ground and for agreeing with them when you don’t. You feel lonely within your relationship.

​Type 2

  • Your career or ministry becomes the primary source of your identity, worth, and value. You derive significance solely from your accomplishments and neglect your health and relationships.

  • Your passions that once brought you happiness - have grown into obsessions that feel overwhelming and all consuming. These good things or even God things have slowly spiraled out of control such as your to-do-list, on-line dating, volunteering, work, social media, food, TV, or exercising.

  • You are driven by your performance instead of driven by your purpose. Even though your life is full of activity, you feel empty.

  • Pleasing, perfecting, and performing have become your constant companions that steal your joy, strip away meaning from life, and erode your sense of self. A crippling perfectionism, analysis paralysis, work-a-holic tendencies, and comparisonitis create burnout through emotional exhaustion.

  • Your thought life primarily consists of endless rationalizing, reasoning, and ruminating preventing you from making simple decisions and rob your peace of mind.

  • You’ve developed a pattern of unhealthy coping mechanisms to help you deal with stress, insecurity, and excessive worrying such as: overeating, drinking, shopping, gossiping, sex, and endless time on your phone.

Through The Cuckoo Syndrome Private 1-on-1 Therapy, You Will…

  • Know when relationship restoration doesn’t work and know when to stop fighting to save an unhealthy relationship with a person who is unwilling to change.

  • Experience increased ability to be grounded in reality and make healthy decisions for yourself.

  • Step out of the gaslighting cycle, experience deeper clarity and rebuilt trust.

  • Break free from chronically neglecting yourself in order to please, fix, and rescue others at the cost of losing yourself.

  • Find freedom from self-sabotaging behaviors and toxic thinking patterns and exchange them for a life of peace and purpose.

  • Build a secure foundation for maintaining healthy relationships that are mutually loyal, loving, and giving.

  • Face difficult feelings such as anger towards God and others, loneliness, sadness, shame, and grief --related to unmet expectations, failed relationships, and unfilled heart’s desires.

  • Make room for yourself in the relationship by setting boundaries, expressing your needs, validating your feelings, and using your voice effectively.

  • Identify false narratives such as, “I’m responsible for someone else" or “I’m too much or not enough" dictating your relationship choices.

  • Heal from unhealthy relationship patterns keeping you stuck in a continuous cycle of suffering.

  • Create a lifestyle that celebrates your needs, wants, and desires without feeling guilty or selfish.

  • Adopt new mindsets: Stop doing all the work in your relationships and move past compromising your true self and resist settling for a person who continually harms you and does not give back to you in the same way.

  • Understand your God-given purpose and create a new vision for your future from a place of hope and confidence that includes your passions and deepest heart’s desires, so they are no longer smothered by the cuckoo.

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What is The Cuckoo Syndrome?

The Cuckoo Syndrome represents the unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behavior that thwart our purpose by creating unnecessary suffering through a manipulative and deceptive process.

What does the process entail?

 

Diving Deeper: The 4 Core Areas at the Heart of The Cuckoo Syndrome Therapy

What Makes You, Your “Nest” a Target for Cuckoos

 

My work with you centers around this truth--All cuckoos have something in common: They need a host. You are the host.

 

Discover the ways you are unknowingly hosting a cuckoo relationship in your life. 

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Understanding the Cuckoo’s Various Disguises

 

Being in a cuckoo relationship leaves an invisible injury that leaves you feeling confused, hurt, and empty. 

Identify specific warning signs/characteristics you are experiencing. 

How to Deal with a Cuckoo Relationship

 

The Cuckoo Syndrome Therapy is based upon the following principle: People can change but you cannot change them. 

 

Learn the 5 steps on how to deal with the unhealthy relationship in your life. 

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A Guide to Living Cuckoo Free

 

The final phase of the program addresses the question: Now that I learned how to identify and deal with my cuckoo, what now?

You no longer have to go through life depleted and tied up in non-reciprocal, lopsided relationships that drain you. Identifying this invisible enemy, who or what is your cuckoo, is the first step to coming home to yourself. And now that is has a name, healing can begin.

 

Join me and many others on the journey of discovering how to live cuckoo-free. Now is the time to exchange a counterfeit purpose for your God-given purpose and to exchange an imposter that has held you captive, for the truth that sets you free.

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ARE YOU READY TO LIVE CUCKOO-FREE?

Click the button below to work with Andrea and submit your application today!

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Curious to see if you are suffering with The Cuckoo Syndrome? Take the quiz.
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IF THE CUCKOO SYNDROME THERAPY DOESN’T SOUND LIKE IT’S A FIT FOR YOU, CLICK THE BUTTON BELOW TO EXPLORE ADDITIONAL OPTIONS. YOU MAY ALSO FILL OUT AN APPLICATION HERE. AFTER WE REVIEW YOUR APPLICATION, IF IT LOOKS LIKE YOU'D BE A GOOD FIT FOR WORKING WITH ANDREA, SHE WILL REACH OUT AND SEND YOU TIMES FOR A FREE PHONE CONSULTATION TO EXPLORE CUSTOM-TAILORED SESSIONS THAT ARE UNIQUE TO YOUR SPECIFIC NEEDS.

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