You Host the Relationship
Hosting The Relationship Cuckoo means you often find yourself carrying the emotional weight of the relationship, giving more than you are able, saying yes when you really mean no, and receiving little to no reciprocation.
You continually feel hurt by this person and you chronically neglect yourself to please them and take care of them even though they are never satisfied and don’t give back to you in the same way.
You’ve adopted the roll of pleaser, rescuer, caretaker or always being available. Your relationship is monopolizing your time and consumes a lot of your energy. You leave conversations with this person feeling confused, manipulated, and deceived – even a bit crazy.
Your voice is rarely heard, you needs are left unmet, and you feel misunderstood. You often feel ashamed and frustrated with yourself for not standing your ground and for agreeing with them when you don’t. You feel lonely within your relationship.
You are not alone in feeling lonely.
You are a compassionate, empathetic, loving,
and caring person.
Deep down your gut is telling you something is not quite right within this relationship --whether it be a romantic partner, family member, colleague, or friend. While the thought of being in a healthy relationship with a person who mutually loves and cares for you seems too good to be true—you can’t help but wonder if it is possible.
Perhaps it’s time to be honest with yourself and face your deepest fears. Don’t hesitate to take a step back and reevaluate your relationship – don’t get too caught up in the wants and needs of the cuckoo dynamic that you neglect yourself. Begin the journey of discovering who you are, what you need, and you want --without feeling guilty or selfish.
The good news is: What you can name you can heal. And now that is has a name, you can learn how to take the steps to deal with The Relationship Cuckoo in your life. You deserve to be treated with the same respect, care, and thoughtful attention that you give to this person. It is never too late to begin the healing process. You can love others without losing yourself.
A final note from Andrea:
So, what does it all mean for you? And how can you use the results to overcome The Cuckoo Syndrome in your life?
Take hope in the fact that what we can name, we can heal. Now that you have identified your relationship cuckoo, healing can begin!
Andrea's book, The Cuckoo Syndrome: The Secret to Breaking Free from Unhealthy Relationships, Toxic Thinking, and Self-sabotaging Behavior takes you on a deeply personal journey of self-discovery and healing.
Using the latest research combining science, scripture, and psychology – the book includes Andrea’s healing journey, stories of her clients, and detailed guidelines on how to deal with cuckoo dynamics within yourself or in relationships with your partner, family members, friends, or colleagues. Order the book Andrea’s clients call, “a life-changing breakthrough,” for yourself and the people you care about, today!
I'm Andrea Anderson Polk
Before we go any further, let me introduce myself... I’m a licensed professional counselor, author, and speaker-storyteller. I am devoted to working together to uncover the deepest truths of your life so you experience lasting healing and celebrate a newfound freedom.
I am here to help courageous, ambitious women of faith take their life back and live each day with peace and purpose.
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