This is the final post in the series on anger. Read the first three posts here: When Anger is a Gift , Ways You Avoid Anger and Why , How to Deal with Anger and Set Boundaries. Today I'm sharing Julie's story which reveals a powerful truth you can apply to your own life to help with anxiety. Julie* sat on my sofa anxious and confused. She expressed how she was introduced through a mutual friend at her church to a lovely man named Liam, whom she began dating. She shared how

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In the previous post, I identified 13 warning signs of harmful therapy designed to help you know when a therapist is displaying harmful behavior in your counseling sessions. Today we will look at how to recognize when your partner’s behavior in therapy is harmful. The last thing you want is to feel just as disillusioned and confused in therapy as you did before therapy. Perhaps your intuition is telling you something is not right about the counseling process and how your par

The previous post, identified 13 warning signs of harmful therapy designed to help you know when a therapist is displaying harmful behavior in your counseling sessions. I also discussed what makes a therapist a good therapist and how to define a healthy counseling relationship. In today’s post, we will dive deeper into the purpose of therapy and help you determine if it's time for you to begin therapy. Decades ago, the reason I pursued my purpose as a therapist is because o

In the previous post, we identified 13 warning signs of harmful therapy designed to help you know when a therapist is displaying unhealthy behavior in your counseling sessions. In today’s post, we will discuss what makes a therapist a good therapist and how to define a healthily counseling relationship. Many of my clients seek counseling after having been in therapy for years and suffering without experiencing significant symptom relief and without lasting healing after m

As a licensed therapist, with over twenty years of clinical experience counseling people, it saddens my heart to state the reality that professional therapists provide harmful counsel. By that I mean, rather than helping people, they are hurting people. Below is a list of thirteen warning signs of harmful therapy that will help you identify when your therapist is displaying unprofessional, unhealthy behavior in your counseling sessions: #1: They accuse you of things that are

Last week we discussed a common defense mechanism, projectizing, a deeper form of perfectionism, by making ourselves a project to be fixed or a problem to be solved rather than treating ourselves as a person worthy of love and compassion. In today’s post, I will be sharing an example of how the defense of projectizing shows up in our life through Sarah’s story, a single woman desiring marriage who is struggling with shame around her singleness and suffering with confusion ar

Fix Me! Fix Me! Many of my clients seek counseling after having been in therapy for years and suffering without any significant symptom relief and without lasting healing after multiple therapists have failed. After a few sessions with me, they say, “I’ve felt a freedom here that I never experienced in three years or even three months with my other therapists after just three sessions with you! How do you do that?” My response is simple: “I’m not trying to fix you.” As humans