Just because you think it… doesn’t mean it’s true. Albert Einstein said it best: “The world we have created is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” Taking Thoughts Captive Spiritually speaking, Scripture reminds us in 2 Corinthians 10:5 that we are invited to “take every thought captive.” In the original Greek, “taking every thought captive” uses a word for capturing prisoners of war, painting a picture of active restraint — not pass

Ever feel like your brain just won’t quit? You’re lying in bed, caught in an endless loop — planning for things that might never happen,...

The quiet anxiety no one talks about, but many carry We all get anxious—it’s part of being human. But how we respond to it and what we make it mean about ourselves, matters just as much. Many of my clients get stuck in the mindset that they’re supposed to fix their anxiety. When that doesn’t happen, they assume a deep fault lies within. That assumption—that there's an inherent flaw—is often the hidden anxiety. Existential Anxiety: What It Is and Why It Feels Hidden Existentia

We don’t always need a breakthrough to find peace. Sometimes, all it takes is a quiet moment outside. In this reflection, I share a simple experience that reminded me of something deeper about anxiety, trust, and the reassuring wisdom found in the biblical passage of Matthew chapter 6. Whether or not you consider yourself religious, I believe there's something universally comforting in the reminder that we don’t have to carry everything on our own. A Run, a Robin, and a Remin

This is the final post in the series on anger. Read the first three posts here: When Anger is a Gift , Ways You Avoid Anger and Why , How to Deal with Anger and Set Boundaries. Today I'm sharing Julie's story which reveals a powerful truth you can apply to your own life to help with anxiety. Julie* sat on my sofa anxious and confused. She expressed how she was introduced through a mutual friend at her church to a lovely man named Liam, whom she began dating. She shared how

Thus far in this series about projectizing , a deeper form of perfectionism, showing up in a tendency to anxiously fix ourselves, we discussed how important it is to refrain from making ourselves a project to be fixed or a problem to solve - rather than a person worthy of love and compassion. We also explored Sarah’s story of shame around her singleness and confusion about her faith. As well as helpful ways to overcome chronic overthinking and how to break free from obses

Thus far in this series about projectizin g , a deeper form of perfectionism, showing up in a tendency to anxiously fix ourselves, we discussed how important it is to refrain from making ourselves a project to be fixed or a problem to solve, rather than a person worthy of love and compassion. We also explored Sarah’s story , a woman desiring marriage and how she makes herself a project, as we dive deep into her story of shame around her singleness and confusion around her f

Thus far in this series about projectizing , a deeper form of perfectionism, showing up in a tendency to anxiously fix ourselves , we discussed how important it is to refrain from making ourselves a project to be fixed or a problem to solve, rather than a person worthy of love and compassion. We also explored Sarah’s story , a woman desiring marriage and how she makes herself a project, as we dive deep into her story of shame around her singleness and confusion around her

Last week we discussed a common defense mechanism, projectizing, a deeper form of perfectionism, by making ourselves a project to be fixed or a problem to be solved rather than treating ourselves as a person worthy of love and compassion. In today’s post, I will be sharing an example of how the defense of projectizing shows up in our life through Sarah’s story, a single woman desiring marriage who is struggling with shame around her singleness and suffering with confusion ar

Fix Me! Fix Me! Many of my clients seek counseling after having been in therapy for years and suffering without any significant symptom relief and without lasting healing after multiple therapists have failed. After a few sessions with me, they say, “I’ve felt a freedom here that I never experienced in three years or even three months with my other therapists after just three sessions with you! How do you do that?” My response is simple: “I’m not trying to fix you.” As humans