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Andrea Publishes Article in Church Growth Magazine on How to Deal with Toxic Relationships

I had the privilege of being published in Church Growth Magazine with my article 5 Steps to Dealing With Toxic Relationships: Guarding Your Heart as You Minister to Needs. Below are excerpts from the article:

Wounded people have adopted a learned helplessness attitude and lifestyle. Learned helplessness occurs when a person convinces himself/herself that he/she does not have the ability to change. The person develops a victim mentality.”

“Give yourself the same care, time, and attention you have given to the person you sought to help. There has been too much focus on taking care of the other person while you are suffering. It is not a mutual relationship.”

“Perhaps you feel responsible for this person, and you carry his/her burdens. Feeling responsible for another person is a major signal that you are investing into a toxic relationship. These responsibilities may be financial, spiritual, social, mental, physical, or relational. Beware of the person’s attempt to use you for your kindness and take advantage of your generosity.”

Read the article HERE

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Andrea Anderson Polk is a licensed professional counselor, nationally certified, registered clinical supervisor, and certified professional coach. She has a private practice in Northern Virginia with well over a decade of clinical experience helping hundreds of clients on their healing journey.

She is driven by a deep commitment to uncovering hidden psychological, relational, and spiritual truths that are keeping people stuck so they can be free.

Her book, The Cuckoo Syndrome, is a provocative approach to understanding the human heart and relationships by weaving together her story and those of her clients with science, scripture, and psychology.

Andrea is here to help ambitious women of faith experience healing and breakthrough so they can live each day with peace and purpose. She believes healing happens through relationships. The wounds that occurred in a relationship must be healed in a relationship. Andrea invites you into a life-altering relationship.
Find out more about her services and work with Andrea one-one- by contacting her here.


Andrea has spent her career studying the human experience and has developed a fascinating analogy that compares cuckoo birds, nature’s master manipulator and imposter, to situations and relationships that leave us feeling drained, confused, lost, and empty. Her new book, The Cuckoo Syndrome, helps us fend off the cuckoos, the unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behaviors in our life that never truly satisfy the deep longings of our souls and the desires of our hearts. 

Andrea’s clinically proven, innovative method helps us recover the lost pieces of ourselves, discover meaning in suffering, and transform our pain into purpose by teaching us to uncover the truth of who we are and who God is so we can be healed and live free. 

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