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Andrea Publishes Article in Church Growth Magazine on How to Deal with Toxic Relationships

Updated: Aug 2, 2023

I had the privilege of being published in Church Growth Magazine with my article 5 Steps to Dealing With Toxic Relationships: Guarding Your Heart as You Minister to Needs. Below are excerpts from the article:

Man holding Bible leaning against a wall. Andrea Publishes Article in Church Growth Magazine on How to Deal with Toxic Relationships

Wounded people have adopted a learned helplessness attitude and lifestyle. Learned helplessness occurs when a person convinces himself/herself that he/she does not have the ability to change. The person develops a victim mentality.”

“Give yourself the same care, time, and attention you have given to the person you sought to help. There has been too much focus on taking care of the other person while you are suffering. It is not a mutual relationship.”

“Perhaps you feel responsible for this person, and you carry his/her burdens. Feeling responsible for another person is a major signal that you are investing into a toxic relationship. These responsibilities may be financial, spiritual, social, mental, physical, or relational. Beware of the person’s attempt to use you for your kindness and take advantage of your generosity.”

Read the article HERE


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Andrea Anderson Polk is a licensed professional counselor, nationally certified, registered clinical supervisor, and certified professional coach. She has a private practice in Northern Virginia with nearly 20 years of clinical experience helping hundreds of clients on their healing journey.

She is driven by a deep calling to help ambitious women of faith experience healing and breakthrough so they can live each day with peace and purpose. 

Andrea believes healing happens through relationship. The wounds that occur in a relationship must be healed in a relationship. Andrea invites you into a life-altering relationship.

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