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Andrea’s Interview in Authority Magazine on Her Story, New Book, and Self-Acceptance

Updated: Jul 1

In a recent interview by Authority Magazine, “How To Learn To Finally Love Yourself,” Andrea

Anderson Polk is quoted in these excerpts from the article:

Decades ago, my healing coincided with my parents’ divorce, which landed me in counseling

during that particularly difficult season of my life. It was not until I began my journey of personal growth and therapy that I felt safe and was finally able to put a voice to my pain and tell my story.

Upon the counseling I received, I felt compelled to pursue it as a career for the purpose of providing freedom that I received myself to others. Since then, I have had the privilege of

meeting with hundreds of clients as a clinician in private practice in my hometown which

continually serves as a nostalgic reminder of the power our stories hold especially in

transforming pain into purpose.

Many of my clients come to counseling wanting tools so they can be fixed. They are in a hurry

and anxious to fix the problem. They do not see the connection between their relational, mental, or emotional issues and frantically wanting to fix themselves so they can be “happy or normal again.”

They are unaware of the past and present pain in their life and how these are affecting

their current issues. These clients desperately want to know things and how to be fixed at the

cost of being known as a person.

Due to this reoccurring patten I see among my clients, I developed a term, “projectizing,” which is a psychological defense mechanism — a deeper and more dangerous form of perfectionism. Projectizing is making oneself a project that needs to be fixed. When we make ourselves a project, we disconnect from our true self because we do not know who we are or what we want, need, and feel. We are anxiously trying to fix ourselves instead. Projectizing is a form of self-attack and is rooted in shame because if we truly loved and accepted ourselves, we wouldn’t treat ourselves as a project that needs to be fixed. Rather, we would view ourselves as a person worthy of love and compassion.

Read the article HERE!

Are you struggling with self-acceptance, perfectionism, or low self-esteem? Or just generally

anxious or depressed? Book an introductory session with Andrea today! She has helped

hundreds of people overcome self-defeating mindsets and cultivate mental, emotional, and

spiritual health!

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Andrea Anderson Polk is a licensed professional counselor, nationally certified, registered clinical supervisor, and certified professional coach. She has a private practice in Northern Virginia with well over a decade of clinical experience helping hundreds of clients on their healing journey.

She is driven by a deep commitment to uncovering hidden psychological, relational, and spiritual truths that are keeping people stuck so they can be free.

Her book, The Cuckoo Syndrome, is a provocative approach to understanding the human heart and relationships by weaving together her story and those of her clients with science, scripture, and psychology.

Andrea is here to help ambitious women of faith experience healing and breakthrough so they can live each day with peace and purpose. She believes healing happens through relationships. The wounds that occurred in a relationship must be healed in a relationship. Andrea invites you into a life-altering relationship.
Find out more about her services and work with Andrea one-one- by contacting her here.


Andrea has spent her career studying the human experience and has developed a fascinating analogy that compares cuckoo birds, nature’s master manipulator and imposter, to situations and relationships that leave us feeling drained, confused, lost, and empty. Her new book, The Cuckoo Syndrome, helps us fend off the cuckoos, the unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behaviors in our life that never truly satisfy the deep longings of our souls and the desires of our hearts. 

Andrea’s clinically proven, innovative method helps us recover the lost pieces of ourselves, discover meaning in suffering, and transform our pain into purpose by teaching us to uncover the truth of who we are and who God is so we can be healed and live free. 

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